A Nigerian woman, Favour Tochi, has penned a public note to her future husband, outlining her ideal partner and her reasons for wanting to get married.
In a Facebook post on Wednesday, November 11, 2026, she made it clear that her decision isn’t based on a need for financial provision or to have children.
While she appreciates a responsible partner, she wants someone she can genuinely build and grow with.
Tochi also stated she isn’t marrying because she needs someone to cook for her, saying she can cook and is happy to share that responsibility.
Furthermore, the woman said she isn’t looking for someone to do everything for her, as she is self-sufficient and willing to care for her partner in return.
Tochi disclosed that she wants a man who is emotionally matured, honest, loyal, intentional and considerate.
“A man whose words match his actions. Someone who communicates instead of shutting me out, takes responsibility instead of shifting blame, and understands that marriage requires effort from both sides,” she added.
“I want a husband who is emotionally mature, honest, loyal, considerate and intentional.
“Someone I can laugh with, pray with, disagree with without feeling unsafe, plan with and grow old with.
“I want us to support each other’s dreams, show up during difficult seasons and never make each other feel alone in a marriage we both chose.
“I don’t expect perfection, but I do expect effort, accountability and consistency.
“Everything else matters, but having a loving, peaceful and healthy partnership is what I value most.
“Dear future husband, I don’t just want to be married. I want us to build a marriage we will both be grateful to have.”
