The wife of an Akwa Ibom pastor, Emem Isong, has stated that a man with no money, plan, discipline has no business chasing women.
The preacher, who stated this in a Facebook post on Thursday, May 21, 2026, said it’s ugly watching a woman lose herself making sacrifices for a man that has nothing to offer her but stress and financial burden.
According to Mrs Isong, men should be able to bring value, peace and mutual progress to the table.
However, a man who has nothing to offer should stay alone with their own lack and leave women alone.
While love is important, she pointed out that love without stability leads to pain.
Addressing women, she advised them to wake up if they are laying next to men that can’t pull out money from the ATM.
“You ever seen a woman lose herself trying to love a man who had nothing to give her but stress? I have. And it’s ugly. She starts off soft—supportive, believing in him. But over time, the bills pile up, her smile fades, and her eyes get tired. Tired of carrying it all,” she wrote in a Facebook post on Thursday, May 21, 2026.
“A man with no money, no plan, no discipline has no damn business chasing love.
“That’s not romantic—it’s reckless. What you’re really doing is looking for a woman to sponsor your struggle while you ‘figure it out.’
“That’s not being a man. That’s being a burden.
“If you can’t provide peace, protection, or progress—leave her alone.
“Don’t drag her into your chaos because you’re scared to be alone with your own lack.
“You think love will fix it? Nah. Love without stability just turns into pāin. And she’ll remember you as the lesson, not the blessing.
“If you’re laying next to a man that can’t pull out money of the ATM, wake the hell up.
“So before you pull up talking about love, ask yourself: Am I bringing peace—or just more problems?
“If your fathers didn’t teach you, I am! No Dusty Bums Allowed! YADAAwakening #family #wife #standards #peace #lifestyle.”
