Not really. I’ve spent 36 months being pregnant and 24 months on maternity leave to exclusively breastfeed kids —time that cost me countless opportunities to travel, grow, and learn at work. While my male colleagues were out networking late nights and weekends, like my husband often could, I was at home planning meals, managing kids, doing laundry, and juggling a million other invisible tasks. All the mental space I could have used to build wealth or pursue passions was swallowed up by the constant demands of motherhood, marriage, and running a home.
Even with all of that, I still maintain a full-time 8-5 job and contribute just as much money as my husband—sometimes even more. But of course, no one talks about that part— my income, despite shouldering all these things. Because in our society, even men who see how much women carry still expect women to shoulder it all—and to do it quietly, without complaint. So she earns money, even more than husband in some cases, and the men still act like they are the only ones providing. So no, not really. Unless your woman has got an army of surrogate mothers and round-the-clock nannies to handle pregnancy, childbirth, child-rearing, homework, and everything in between—burdens that still fall squarely on women’s shoulders— please, be quiet. You didn’t say something deep. You just spoke without thinking.
Empty head, ngozi okonji iwuala gave birth to 5 children, Madam Dorothy akunyili birthed multitude, oby Ezekwesili and co, how many wil I mention. You are just a lazy ass entitled fellow wasting your life in the name of birthing and raising kids. Keep waiting for your man to do it all financially until he looses his source of income, I pray he won’t, your eyes go see shege pro max. No go Hussle and support him in any little way you can. Meanwhile I’m very sure you be igbo, very lazy set of entitled bingos in marriage, una husbands are usually simps.
My dear! I may agree with some of the things you said, however, let’s be as realistic as possible with the 21st century and the GenZ era. Things are no longer the same. We are living in an era where there’s clamour for gender equality instead of equity (which I rather advocate for). Life is dynamic, what works for one situation may not work for another. What works for couple A, may not work for couple B. Everything is not cast on stone, let’s be flexible with life… The man and the woman should support eachother financially and otherwise.
It is not the same day that a man starts a relationship with a woman that he gets her pregnant. Both the man and the woman should hussle. Like he said, money is unisex. Traditionally, the man is expected to take care of his woman, his money is their money, but her money is her money, but that’s selfish, and times has changed. Couples should step for for each other. Nothing wrong with a man doing dishes, cooking, etc to support his partner. Likewise the woman.
When she’s pregnant, he can step up and do more to cover all the gaps. He can support with the kids as well.
Every family dynamics is different…. There are women earning more than their men. It will be unfair to expect the man to do more than what he can. It would also be unfair to expect the woman to handle more than she can. It’s all about balance and understanding. People want to eat their cake and still have it.
These are the people that make this life hard….
Some bush people with their traditional mindset (subjecting women into modern day slavery), some overzealous religious ones (coming up with weird doctrines that suit their fantasy), and the woke ones (who think that the modern world is about sitting back and watching the other person work themselves out to carter for their needs and want simply because they possess golden genitalia).
