A Nigerian woman has gone viral on social media after dropping her take on why so many women in their 30s are still single.
According to her, a lot of modern-day women are not looking for men anymore. They’re “hunting unicorns.”
She explained that somewhere along the line, the standard for a man moved from just being a decent guy to being an all-in-one package: therapist, best friend, passionate lover, financial provider, future father of the year, and even a mind reader—plus, he must be devastatingly handsome with zero flaws.
She didn’t stop there. She said women grew up on a steady diet of movies and books that painted perfect men who could do it all. Now, they’re genuinely shocked to discover that real-life men—actual humans—come with flaws.
In her words, “We’re shocked—shocked!—to discover that actual humans come with flaws.”
Meanwhile, she believes men seem to understand the reality a lot better.
According to her, men are more likely to prioritise, make compromises, and put up with a lot more “nonsense” overall, while women are busy walking around with long spreadsheets of required qualities—and then end up wondering why they’re constantly disappointed.
The post has sparked mixed reactions online. Some people agreed with her take, saying the expectations placed on men in today’s dating scene are unrealistic. Others argued that both men and women have fallen victim to unrealistic dating standards, thanks to social media, rom-coms, and unrealistic portrayals of love.
