Nicki Andrea, 28, from New England, has more than 100,000 followers on TikTok, where she shares videos about her life as a bicoastal model and influencer.
The bride-to-be has been giving relationship advice as part of her viral ‘How to Man Whisper’ series ahead of her upcoming wedding.
‘I’m going to teach you how to get your man, husband, boyfriend, whatever, to do everything you want him to do. “Manipulate” him,’ she began her now-viral clip.
Nicki Andrea, 28, from New England, went viral on TikTok after sharing her ‘man whisper’ hack for getting your partner to do everything you want him to
The bride-to-be (pictured with her fiancé) has been giving relationship advice as part of her viral ‘How to Man Whisper’ series ahead of her upcoming wedding
Andrea boasted that her relationship technique was so good that a girlfriend recently told her she ‘needs to teach a course on this.’
‘This is a little something I like to call “man whispering.” I actually heard that from my trainer a few years ago, and I thought it was the best phrase ever,’ she explained.
‘Man whispering is basically how you talk to your man in order to get your way but without having to try too hard. Work smarter, not harder, ladies.’
Andrea said her first lesson was about giving positive reinforcement, noting that men need it just as much as women do.
‘My mom always used to tell me: “If you call a man a pig, he’s going to start oinking.” You don’t want to keep putting him down,’ she said.
‘If there are things he is doing that you don’t love, yes, of course, communication is key, and you want to be vocal about that. But at the same time, it is equally important to lift him up for the things that he is doing for you that are good.’
If you are someone who wants to be treated like a princess and have a man who makes you feel safe and secure, she advised praising your partner when he does little things like carry your bags or open the door for you.
‘I think it’s really important to give him that positive reaffirmation,’ she said.
Andrea said her first lesson was about giving positive reinforcement, noting that men need it just as much as women do
The model advised verbally showing your appreciation when your partner does little things because it will encourage him to make even bigger gestures in the future
The influencer’s video has been viewed more than 790,000 times, and many commenters agreed that her advice worked
Andrea gave an example of how you should verbally show your gratitude, saying: ‘I love how I feel so taken care of by you, and I love how you make me feel so safe.’
‘Guys like when you strike their ego a little bit. When he does that stuff and it kind of goes unnoticed, or you’re like “oh, thanks” and you don’t really pay any mind to it, he’s less apt to do it,’ she explained.
‘But when you show those are the things that really matter to you… he’s going to keep doing those things because he knows they’re important to you.’
Andrea added this may seem like common sense to some people, but a lot of women in relationships ‘don’t do it.’
‘Try this and watch those little things translate into big life gestures!’ she wrote in the caption.
The influencer’s video has been viewed more than 790,000 times and has received hundreds of comments.
Many women agreed that the trick works, though some argued that it was more about being appreciative than manipulative.
‘Just like training a dog,’ one person joked.
Another added: ‘I used to be a behavioral therapist and I can totally second this, positive reinforcement does wonders! With kids, hubby, friends, etc.’
‘This is a recipe for a healthy and perfect marriage based also on a personal experience,’ someone else shared.