A bride-to-be is facing fierce backlash online after revealing she uninvited her transgender sister to her wedding to appease her transphobic parents.
‘I have a trans sister [who] came out to us around a year ago but had been on hormones for longer and hid it from us until she had moved out into her own place, probably because our parents are very conservative and known to be transphobic,’ she wrote.
‘As a result, there was this huge fight and a ton of people in our family (including our parents) cut her off and don’t talk to her anymore.’
Reddit user u/Ill-Yoghurt-482 revealed that she had to uninvite her trans sister to her wedding to appease her transphobic parents who are paying for it (stock photo)
Many commenters agreed she was in the wrong, insisting she and her fiancé were as transphobic as her parents
The Redditor said she’s ‘been pretty supportive,’ noting that she has been using her sister’s correct pronouns and new name despite their family’s disapproval.
‘I even make it a point to visit her every so often, while she hasn’t seen most of our other family since last year,’ she continued. ‘I also promised her that, if and when I got married in the future, she’d still be invited despite any tension with our family.’
The woman went on to explain that her parents adore her fiancé and see him ‘as a substitute son.’
‘Almost as a result, he’s definitely more on their side of the situation, and he’s made it clear he doesn’t really agree with, or like, my sister all that much,’ she explained.
Her parents ‘orchestrated’ her fiancé’s ‘very elaborate’ proposal and offered to pay for the entire wedding — until she brought up her sister.
‘I mentioned wanting to invite my sister, and they shut the idea down immediately, talking about how she disrespected the family and cut them off and all that,’ she said. ‘They basically gave me an ultimatum: have my wedding planned and paid for by them or have my sister there and they don’t come at all.
The criticism was so harsh that the woman returned to her post to say she was turning off the notifications because people are ‘misconstruing’ and ‘ignoring’ the difficult position she is in
‘I took my parents’ offer, because I can’t really afford to pay for an entire wedding and because my fiancé pressured me to accept it.’
The Redditor admitted that her sister is ‘very understandably upset,’ but she noted that she was ‘still inviting her to a smaller afterpart over Zoom.’
When she asked other users if she was in the wrong, they didn’t hold back. Many accused her of being just as transphobic as her parents and fiancé.
‘If it were me, I’d DIY the whole thing to spite them. A**holes like that don’t need enabling,’ one person wrote. ‘In ten years, what are you going to remember more — that you had nice centerpieces paid for by your parents, or your sister was banned from the wedding?’
‘One day she’s going to look back and hate everything about her wedding including her transphobic husband,’ someone else commented.
‘Either you support your sister or you don’t. Using her pronouns and “even visiting her every so often” (what a saint! /s) isn’t the incredible work you think it is,’ another noted. ‘It’s truly the bare minimum. And with your parents giving you a check with strings shows that you can be bought off.’
The criticism was so harsh that she returned to her post to say she was turning off the notifications because people are ‘misconstruing’ and ‘ignoring’ the difficult position she is in.
‘I hope you all are happy,’ she added.
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